POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY -
What Is It & How Does It Help?
Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology describes it as the "scientific study of optimal human functioning [that] aims to discover and promote the factors that allow individuals and communities to thrive."
What does that mean?
Up to this point, the science and research of human behavior emphasized figuring out what was wrong with people and then setting out to fix it. Positive Psychology is the science and research of what works well in the lives of people who have optimal functioning and then doing more of that! So it's about using strategies that have been scientifically studied and proven by those who are actually living happy, resilient, and optimal best lives. It emphasizes discovering strengths and then building upon that strength-based energy in order to create upward spirals.
Think about it, reflect back on a time where you felt really good; were you doing something you loved? Something you were good at? Or were you doing something you hated and had no care nor interest in? Do you feel more energized when you think about a happy moment or when you think about heavy-hearted moment? No doubt you are more energized and inspired to take action when your feelings of positivity are higher, from reflecting on times when you were at your best! Bottom line, positivity gives us more bang for our buck... our thinking, affects how we feel, and then what we actually do.
This approach does not mean we won't explore difficult emotions, histories or painful experiences, but the key is how much time do you want to spend in that state? And how might you exert some control to find balance? In other words, this is not just "positive thinking." We're human and have an array of emotions; many of life's circumstances are in fact painful and not appropriate for "thinking positive."
We all have negative things happen in our lives, and sometimes it's helpful to have objective external support to help us better navigate. In these cases, relying on supportive relationships with friends, family or a professional coach or therapist are what we need. You can choose which ones help you the most at any given time. Positive supportive relationships matter, it is part of being resilient, and helps us cope and manage the stressors of life. It is a proven fact that supportive "relationships" are key to well-being.
If you feel this is a strategy that makes sense to you, a pro-active, supportive and empowering approach (and you have a willingness to sometimes do some "homework") - Sue would like to talk with you and help you along your path to create a life of positive living.